Research has shown that violent or aggressive behavior is often learned early in life. The most important way to minimize violence long term is to teach your children kindness, respect, compassion and the value of all life from an early age.
It all starts from home. Spend time with your kids. Listen to them and guide them. Define your family rules. Talk together about discipline, chores, computer/video, loyalty, honesty and explain why rules are and what consequences of violating them.
Be clear with your kids about family values and show them what these values look like in action. It is very necessary to teach them proper behavior.
When your children behave the way they are supposed to, make sure you let them know you noticed and appreciate them.
Raise respectful childrens. Just don’t say “Be gentle”. Show them how to be gentle.
Speak politely with them. Your politeness will be a role model for how to treat others.
My dad taught me when a maid or anyone in house breaks a cup or any expensive things. Do not scream at them. Be warm and caring to them becuase they are already feeling guilty about it.
We need to set a list of unacceptable behavior, like hitting , bullying should always be unacceptable, even if it’s on a day like their Birthday. If something is incorrect it has to be incorrect all the time. No exception.
Teach them to help others . According to Islam being a good neighbor and realizing the duty to our neighbors doesn’t just mean being friendly to the homeowners next door. It means to help take care of the community as a whole—and that includes the poor. No matter how busy I am I have always time for my kid in my agenda. In that time I don’t pick up my phone, i do not do anything exept spend time with him. ~#CR1096
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